May 2013
Dear Ones,
I love the month of May! The weather is finally beginning to feel warm again and flowers are blooming all over. We took a little initiative last weekend and threw open the windows and doors to do some spring cleaning.  Initiative is that belief that you can take action and accomplish your goals.There’s an e-book that I hope you will read, enjoy, and apply. It’s all about Putting POWER behind Initiative.  Let me know if you’d like a copy by sending me a note at lisa@VanAllenCoaching.com  Give the tips a try and then let me know if they helped you create initiative by posting a comment on my Facebook page at http://www.Facebook.com/TheBizDoctor

Another reason I love May – It’s my birthday month!!  This year I’m hitting another one of those milestone years and wanted to do something special for YOU.  Read on to find out about the gift I’m sharing and all the special offers!

Blessings!

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Dr. Lisa’s Birthday Bash!!

It’s my birthday this week and I want to give YOU a gift!  Below you will find a link where you can get F.R.E.E. access to a special e-book entitledPutting POWER behind Initiative, an excerpt from Your Belief Quotient.  I hope you enjoy this gift!I’ve also created special pricing based on my birthdate for some of my best products and services.  This offer isn’t going to last much longer than the cake and ice cream… so grab yours NOW!

 

Offer 1: 

The Better Beliefs – Better Business Coaching Clinic

Does your business or career need a shot in the arm? Or better yet, a full diagnostic on what is working, what could work better, and where you want to
focus your time and effort to generate more cash and fewer hassles? Apply to join the Better Beliefs – Better Business Coaching Clinic.  This three month Coaching Clinic provides you with all the best tools in life and business coaching:

stethoscope· Two individual sessions with Dr. Lisa per month

· Monthly group coaching and masterminding sessions

· Private access to materials, videos and audio recordings

· Ongoing support in the Better Beliefs Community group on Facebook

· A signed copy of Your Belief Quotient and the Belief Quotient Workbook

$1800 to-$2100 – Birthday price: $1559.00

http://www.mcssl.com/store/drlisavanallen

Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 2:

Urgent Care for Your Life & Business Mastermind Group

This group is specifically designed for clients who have been through coaching with Dr. Lisa who want to reconnect and revitalize their life and business.  Urgent Care is a six month mastermind group for entrepreneurs and executives who are committed to practicing the skills they learn, creating a community that thrives on testing and proof, and is willing to share and receive support and accountability.

team-building·         Monthly group coaching and masterminding sessions

·         Private access to materials, videos and audio recordings

·         Ongoing support in the Better Beliefs Community group on Facebook

·         A signed copy of Your Belief Quotient and the Belief Quotient Workbook

$899 – Birthday price: $599.00

 

http://www.mcssl.com/store/drlisavanallen

Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 3:

“Clear!!”  Teleseminar Teaching Series

Clear defibheartThat’s what you hear in the ER when a heart is being jolted back into proper rhythm.  That’s also the name of Dr. Lisa’s new study group.  If your heart or soul are blocked with negative emotions, if the life-blood of your work or business is stuck because you can’t seem to get past self-sabotage, if you want freedom and clarity in your life – then “Clear!!” is for you!

“Clear!!” is an 8-week program of group Clinic calls and online support.

$299.00 – Birthday price: $159.00

 

http://www.mcssl.com/store/drlisavanallen

Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 4:

Presale:  Combo pack of Your Belief Quotient & The Belief Quotient Workbook

bellieve in my bookScheduled for release in June 2013, order your presale copy of the companion workbook to Dr. Lisa’s award-winning book Your Belief Quotient . The workbook is a digital download of all the exercises in the book and additional new material designed to help you end self-sabotage and Build Better Beliefs.

Presale and Birthday price: $25.59

http://www.mcssl.com/store/drlisavanallen

 

 

Offer 5:

Your Belief Quotient: 7 Beliefs that Sabotage or Support Your Success (paperback)

A signed copy of my book and entry into the Better Beliefs Community on Facebook

$17.99 – Birthday price: $15.59

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The Cycle of Abundance

[Excerpted from Your Belief Quotient: 7 Beliefs that Sabotage or Support Your Success]

Abundance is the belief that there is more than enough. In an abundant universe, you have plenty of time, money, health, energy and wisdom. Abundance is the knowledge that you can give it all away and there will still be enough for yourself. Abundance expands with heartfelt gratitude and humility.  At its core, an abundance mentality springs from a healthy sense of personal worth and builds on one’s personal and spiritual values.  Dr. Stephen Covey coined the phrase “abundance mindset” in his best-seller The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. According to Covey, an abundance mentality is “a paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody.”1

Nature gives us wonderful examples of abundance, particularly in the growth cycle of trees and flowers. After a period of dormancy, a fruit tree bursts into blooms and is covered in an abundance of flowers. Wind and rain might buffet the tree and destroy many of the flowers. An average of 75% of the flowers will fall, but those buds remaining will eventually grow into fruit. A fruit tree is not designed to have every flower pollinate and grow into fruit. The tree does not have the resources to sustain every flower. The larger and stronger the tree’s branches and internal supports, the greater the capacity it will have to bear more fruit.  Once the tree bears fruit, every piece of fruit contains seeds, and every seed contains an incalculable number of trees and fruit.  This is abundance!

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This illustration fits the human experience of abundance well. We also go through periods of dormancy. These periods are times of quiet growth and strengthening. During dormancy, a fruit tree rests and its sap slows. It is the perfect time to prune away dead branches and treat any disease.  As humans, we need time to pull back and reflect on what needs pruned away. We need time to heal and refresh. The end of dormancy comes after the tree has been exposed to chilling temperatures and the weather begins to warm. People awaken and grow as they warm up to new ideas and opportunities. Tree growth during the spring is dependent upon the quality and quantity of sunlight, water, and soil. Our growth as individuals is equally dependent on how we feed ourselves: body, mind and spirit. Abundance requires preparation. Once those flowers begin to emerge from the branches, only the most resilient survive to become fruit. The initial beauty of the petals fall away as the fruit emerges and ripens. The intoxicating sweetness of fully matured fruit arrives after being warmed by the summer sunlight.  Wind, rain, and heat are metaphors for the challenges we must face to grow and be prepared for abundance.  Once we begin to bear fruit in our lives, we witness firsthand the ever expanding cycle of abundance.

I go into the detail of the growth cycle of fruit trees for a purpose:  Abundance does not magically appear.  There are myths circulating that we can engage in wishful thinking and expect abundance to appear.  This is simply not true.  That is not to say that abundance, when it occurs is not surprising.  Manifesting abundance can seem magical, but it is always the result of a cycle of preparation. It is my intention to help you understand how to be ready to receive abundance in your life. Your beliefs about abundance are crucial to your success in life and business.

Build Better Beliefs with Affirmations

Affirmations have been mocked and misunderstood by many through the years.  My own husband enjoys creating what he calls    “Slam-firmations” and teases me with them.  Interestingly enough, he has his own positive affirmation posted in his bathroom and on his computer monitor!  I challenge you to avoid overlooking the power of a positive affirmation to shift your thoughts and beliefs.  Here is how you can create powerful, belief-shifting affirmations:

1. Start your affirmation with the words “I am”.   “I AM” is a name for God, and you are claiming Divine power and intervention when you start your affirmation this way.  You can also start affirmations with words like “I know”, “I have”, “I love”.

2. Write your affirmation in the positive.  If you focus on a statement like “I am not angry with my abuser anymore”, your focus is on the negative (in this case the abuser).  Instead write a statement like “I have forgiven those who have harmed me and I am free from the wounds of the past.”

3. Write your affirmation in present tense.  Even if you are not yet experiencing your affirmation, write and visualize it as if it were happening in this moment.  This will shift your unconscious mind into making the statement true.

4. Use your own words and language that is comfortable for you.  You want to use words that feel right on the tongue when you say them out loud.

5. Write your affirmations with passion and feeling.  Your “I am” statements should be charged with warmth and make you feel energized, happy, and peaceful.  Your affirmations will carry more power if your mind and emotions are engaged.

6. Engage your senses as you write and repeat your affirmations.  Use rich, colorful language that creates pictures of the life you want.  Write your affirmations on special paper with appealing fonts or script.  Listen to music as you read and repeat your affirmations.  If you enjoy incense, potpourris, or other room scents, use them.

7. Focus on the “what”, not the “how”.  Let your mind examine what you want to be true, but do not let it question how it will happen.  Your mind will limit the endlessly perfect possibility of how your future will unfold.

8. Incorporate your current successes and positive traits.  As you focus on the life you want to create, recognize what you already love about yourself and your life.  For example, “I am building my life upon truth because I have faced my fears and am strong and resilient.

9. Write affirmations about your deepest desires.  Ask yourself:

• What thinking patterns or beliefs would I like to change?

• What circumstances would I like to improve or transform?

• What experiences would I like to have?

• What feelings would I like to enjoy?

• What do I want my life to be like?

 

You can write as many or as few affirmations as you like.  You might make a list of several and rotate through them over the course of a week or month.  Take time to read through each of your affirmations, letting the words and ideas sink in before moving on to the next.   Affirmations can help you rebuild and strengthen you resilience, building better beliefs that support your success.

Five Belief Barriers to Team Success

ImageYour team has had their cheese moved and discovered a sixth dysfunction while having a crucial conversation.  You’ve tried to drive their purpose, test their passions and find their strengths.  Profits are down, tensions are up and you are wondering what ever made you think you could pull this group together.  And there lies the problem.  Do you actually believe it is possible to connect with the members of this group and work together toward positive outcomes?  Does each member of the team have a similar belief?  Teams are made up of individuals, and those individuals each have belief systems that either support or sabotage their ability to create meaningful connections.  When teams are stressed, limiting beliefs can derail any forward momentum.  Knowing and believing that you can create strong, healthy relationships is the first step toward building a team.

Henry Ford said it well, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”  Your personal beliefs are the filters that influence every thought, action, decision and relationship you have.  Your belief system began being formed in early childhood, and every relationship you’ve ever had has contributed to your belief about the next one.  So what do you believe about your ability to connect, build, maintain and deepen relationships?

There are five belief barriers to creating healthy connections. Identifying these barriers is the first step in creating healthy beliefs about your connections to others.

1.  Defensiveness stems from unresolved conflicts and unhealed wounds from past connections with others.  A false sense of self-preservation drives us to put up walls to prevent new hurts before they happen.  There is an injustice to this defensive posture as we hold ourselves from new connections because of what someone else did to us. The problem with this is that we are assuming this new connection will be just as harmful as the ones that hurt.  We fail to realize this new connection could bring healing and joy to our lives.  To eliminate defensiveness, we must develop the belief that we are resilient.  The word resilient stems from the Latin word that means literally “to leap back”. The resilient overcome obstacles.  “The Fraud Factor” shows up when someone believes they must cover up real or imagined faults.  This lack of authenticity can grow into a lack of integrity.  When a member of a partnership or team puts on a front, the others usually sense it on an unconscious level.  Transparency about your personal strengths and weaknesses is the best way to build trust, an essential component building relationships.

2.  Dependence stems from a false belief that you are not able to accomplish your objectives on your own.  An unhealthy dependence on others grows out of fear that without the strength or support of others, you are not enough.  This faulty belief usually has its root in early childhood where you were not given opportunities to overcome obstacles and excel.  Confidence is built slowly, one success upon another and confidence is the antidote to dependence.

3.  Comparisons can be an equally destructive barrier to connection.  It is human nature to do some comparing as you begin new relationships.  When two people first meet, they compare differences, noting how each is unique.  The danger comes when one of the parties in the relationship fail to meet some unwritten standard or criteria.  Uniqueness can be an attraction factor or something that makes you feel awkward and disconnected.  Diversity can be divisive or add variety and spice. Thinking “you’re not like me” or “I’m not like them” can be the beginning of a belief that either weakens or builds a connection. There are two potential routes your thinking can take:

“I’m not like them, so I don’t belong and never will.” or “I’m not like them, I can contribute my unique strengths and perspectives.”

4.  Distractions take our focus off the priorities important to the relationship.  Every relationship, partnership and team has values, goals, agendas and ideas whether they have been clearly communicated or not.  When one member is distracted by conflicting activities, the relationship suffers.  Believing in the vision of the team requires vigilant focus as well as the willingness to sacrifice personal agendas.

5.  Finally, personal preferences can be a belief barrier to creating healthy connections.  Certain personality types need more time and space than others.  They prefer to recharge their batteries with time alone.  They might need time to consider ideas and their responses.  They could have a greater need for quiet.  Believing that the relationship robs you of what you need to function will create tension and limit your ability to contribute generously.  Individuals need to be responsible for nurturing themselves and making sure they come to their relationships as healthy and whole as possible.  Communicating personal needs and taking time for yourself will help others support you in being your best.  Then you can come to the group refreshed and ready to take on any challenge.

Open Your Heart For On-Going Success

In my research on limiting and propelling beliefs, I found an interesting fact.  There is a fairly high percentage of people who are experiencing a degree of success, but one limiting belief holds them back.  It is as if their taste of success has created for them a roadblock to continued success.  What is this limiting belief?  It is that they believe they know the answers and don’t need any new input into their lives.  They have formed opinions and have closed to ideas that don’t immediately match those opinions.  They believe they are right and anyone who doesn’t agree is wrong.

The most successful people maintain an openness to new ideas, new ways of doing things, and new learning.  They approach different ideas with humility and a willingness to listen before rejecting or coming to judgment.

This ability to remain open comes more easily to certain temperaments.  Individuals who prefer the concrete over the abstract tend to struggle with openness, but they can learn to develop the skill of consideration before rejection of new ideas or methods.  When faced with some new thought or practice, ask yourself how it compares to your experience.  Ask yourself if opening to this idea could hurt you in any way.  If it safe to proceed, move forward and gather more information, comparing the new experience with what you know is true.  Opening your heart will help you discover new paths to success.

Resilience – The Key to Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

re·sil·ience //  (r-zlyns)

n. 1. The ability to recover quickly from illness, change, or misfortune; buoyancy.

2. The property of a material that enables it to resume its original shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed; elasticity.

// (The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language)

When you look back at your childhood, do you experience happy memories or sadness?  Do you focus more on the wounds of the past or the joys of experiences you had?  The answers to these questions are very important to determining just how resilient you are.  How strong are your beliefs that you can and will overcome obstacles and succeed?  Research indicates that individuals with open wounds from the past tend to have more difficulty believing they can accomplish their goals.  It is as if they are chained to the past, held back by powerful emotional cords.  These cords consist of lies attached to the events of the past.  Your own past and the stories you inherited from your family.  These lies are misperceptions and misunderstandings and outright falsehoods about what really happened, your personal value, your ability to succeed, what others think, and what you believe about yourself.

Resilience, as defined by the American Heritage Dictionary, is the ability to recover and even return to the original shape.  You can overcome the wounds of the past and “bounce back”.  And rather than returning to your original state, I believe you will become stronger, clearer and possess a message that will likely become part of your purpose and passion.  It will take some work.  It will mean going back and remembering the painful events of the past, but this time armed with tools that clean and cauterize the wound so you can heal.  Once you have completed the work of healing the past, you will be ready and able to move forward into the future.  You will experience freedom from shame and grief and find a lightness that enables you to soar over obstacles in your path.  Limiting beliefs about who you are and what you can do will no longer hold you.