Five Belief Barriers to Team Success

ImageYour team has had their cheese moved and discovered a sixth dysfunction while having a crucial conversation.  You’ve tried to drive their purpose, test their passions and find their strengths.  Profits are down, tensions are up and you are wondering what ever made you think you could pull this group together.  And there lies the problem.  Do you actually believe it is possible to connect with the members of this group and work together toward positive outcomes?  Does each member of the team have a similar belief?  Teams are made up of individuals, and those individuals each have belief systems that either support or sabotage their ability to create meaningful connections.  When teams are stressed, limiting beliefs can derail any forward momentum.  Knowing and believing that you can create strong, healthy relationships is the first step toward building a team.

Henry Ford said it well, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”  Your personal beliefs are the filters that influence every thought, action, decision and relationship you have.  Your belief system began being formed in early childhood, and every relationship you’ve ever had has contributed to your belief about the next one.  So what do you believe about your ability to connect, build, maintain and deepen relationships?

There are five belief barriers to creating healthy connections. Identifying these barriers is the first step in creating healthy beliefs about your connections to others.

1.  Defensiveness stems from unresolved conflicts and unhealed wounds from past connections with others.  A false sense of self-preservation drives us to put up walls to prevent new hurts before they happen.  There is an injustice to this defensive posture as we hold ourselves from new connections because of what someone else did to us. The problem with this is that we are assuming this new connection will be just as harmful as the ones that hurt.  We fail to realize this new connection could bring healing and joy to our lives.  To eliminate defensiveness, we must develop the belief that we are resilient.  The word resilient stems from the Latin word that means literally “to leap back”. The resilient overcome obstacles.  “The Fraud Factor” shows up when someone believes they must cover up real or imagined faults.  This lack of authenticity can grow into a lack of integrity.  When a member of a partnership or team puts on a front, the others usually sense it on an unconscious level.  Transparency about your personal strengths and weaknesses is the best way to build trust, an essential component building relationships.

2.  Dependence stems from a false belief that you are not able to accomplish your objectives on your own.  An unhealthy dependence on others grows out of fear that without the strength or support of others, you are not enough.  This faulty belief usually has its root in early childhood where you were not given opportunities to overcome obstacles and excel.  Confidence is built slowly, one success upon another and confidence is the antidote to dependence.

3.  Comparisons can be an equally destructive barrier to connection.  It is human nature to do some comparing as you begin new relationships.  When two people first meet, they compare differences, noting how each is unique.  The danger comes when one of the parties in the relationship fail to meet some unwritten standard or criteria.  Uniqueness can be an attraction factor or something that makes you feel awkward and disconnected.  Diversity can be divisive or add variety and spice. Thinking “you’re not like me” or “I’m not like them” can be the beginning of a belief that either weakens or builds a connection. There are two potential routes your thinking can take:

“I’m not like them, so I don’t belong and never will.” or “I’m not like them, I can contribute my unique strengths and perspectives.”

4.  Distractions take our focus off the priorities important to the relationship.  Every relationship, partnership and team has values, goals, agendas and ideas whether they have been clearly communicated or not.  When one member is distracted by conflicting activities, the relationship suffers.  Believing in the vision of the team requires vigilant focus as well as the willingness to sacrifice personal agendas.

5.  Finally, personal preferences can be a belief barrier to creating healthy connections.  Certain personality types need more time and space than others.  They prefer to recharge their batteries with time alone.  They might need time to consider ideas and their responses.  They could have a greater need for quiet.  Believing that the relationship robs you of what you need to function will create tension and limit your ability to contribute generously.  Individuals need to be responsible for nurturing themselves and making sure they come to their relationships as healthy and whole as possible.  Communicating personal needs and taking time for yourself will help others support you in being your best.  Then you can come to the group refreshed and ready to take on any challenge.

Brian Tracy’s 1000% Formula

I recently watched a video by Brian Tracy called Increase Your Income 1000%. He says his formula is based on the Japanese Kaizen Formula or the Law of Incremental Improvement which is based on getting better, a little every day. This principle builds on the Momentum principle which says that once you start moving forward, it becomes easier to move forward.

Tracy shared how he created this formula after reflecting on his own success and comparing it with the success he’s seen in his clients. Here’s the 1000% formula:

• Get up 2 hours early

• Invest 1st hour (golden hour) reading something motivational/uplifting

• Make a list – plan you day

• Prioritize your list

• Start at the beginning and work your way through

• Listen to audio programs in your car – equivalent of getting a degree in your field

• After every call (he teaches sales) ask two questions: what did I do right? and what would I do differently next time?

• Treat everyone you meet like a Million Dollar Customer

What part of Tracy’s formula are you already following?  Are these activities supporting your success?  Would it be worth implementing the rest of the formula?  Could it hurt?

Watch the video for yourself: http://motivatetube.com/video/6Pz03hNEVTE/Increasing-Your-Income-1000-Formula.html

Blessings!

Dr. Lisa

Align Your Passions with Your Mission

One of the things I love most about sharing the Passion Test for Business with companies and non-profit boards is helping them see how every individual in the company can align their personal passions with the company mission statement.  This is easily done when the mission statement genuinely reflects the heart of the leadership.  Below is a list of required elements for a good mission statement developed by John DeMartini.  Compare this list with your own mission statement – or use it to craft yours TODAY!
• The mission statement needs to be refined and reviewed so everybody in the company is aligned to it.
• A mission statement is not meant to be an idealistic, intellectual statement designed to sound good in public. One of the most important things in building a business is a clear vision and certainty: the statement of purpose or mission of what you want to create. A mission statement is a statement from the core of the individual leader’s heart on what they are inspired to do.
• A good mission statement essentially demands the soul and spirit of the leader. In order to be a good leader you must have vision, inspiration and purpose which leads to vitality, intensity and power.
• The mission statement of a company is the inner most thoughts of the leader and it speaks to their core values.
• The inspiration of the company is directly proportionate to how vivid the vision and the statement is of what you would like to do.
• A leader must be appreciative of the opportunity they have to share the product service or idea of the company.
• A successful company is one where the following is reflected on the staff; gratitude, vision and enthusiasm. The staff must be grateful to be at work and plan for it every morning, there must be a vision they can articulate without outside help and they must be enthusiastic – this is seen in the vibe of the workplace.
• Most people think terrestrially and look out celestially; like you have the world in your hands and imagine going from a greater sphere and look inwards.
• The masses of people wait to see things before they believe; the master believes things before they see it.
• You cannot coerce people into working – you have to inspire them to work. An inspiring mission statement assists employees to know what they are working towards and aids productivity.

Need help crafting a mission statement that reflects your heart and vision for your company?  Talk out loud to a trusted friend or colleague and record the key points that come up when you answer the question “What do I want my company to be known for?  What impact do I want to have?”  Be as audacious as you want in this conversation – you are just brainstorming.  Then take what you recorded and begin to mine the gems that represent the heart of your company.

Do you like your mission statement?  Post a link here – I’d love to see yours!!

Entrepreneurs – The New Normal

I love reading stories of entrepreneurs – they inspire me and make me believe  my dreams and aspirations are more within reach because of their achievements.  I’ve often felt out of synch with the rest of the world – I’d rather slave away creating my own business than work for anyone else.  Even when the hours are long and the pay lower than I could get elsewhere –  the pride of ownership of what I’ve accomplished far outweighs any hardship!

I guess I’m not that unusual.  Entrepreneurs are becoming the new normal!  More and more people are seeing how they can invent a life of purpose and passion – and profit!  I just finished a couple books I highly recommend on this subject:

 

  • Life Entrepreneurs: Ordinary people Creating Extraordinary Lives by Christopher Gergen and Gregg Vanourek

 

  • To Build the Life You Want, Create the Work You Love by Marsha Sinetar

 

I just celebrated the anniversary of my business and am proud of weathering storms, excited to see new growth, and thrilled at the success I see coming my way!

How can I help YOU create the life and business you want?  Contact me at lisa@VanAllenCoaching.com

Beyond the Blinders

Blinders are used to train horses to look only where they are supposed to look – straight in front of them. As humans we often voluntarily wear blinders. We plod through life unconsciously without looking past the image right in front of us. But in order to embrace life to the fullest, we must look beyond the blinders. We need to look within, without, around, and up.

A Conscious Business Coach helps business owners and entrepreneurs remove the blinders. It might be through an investigation of the self through the use of tools like the Myers Briggs or the Passion Test. It could be an assessment of how relationships are functioning through a 360 degree feedback process. It could be a review of a business or strategic plan, including operational and marketing strategies. While the scope can seem very broad, the focus is not. The chief aim of a Conscious Business Coach is to assist others in creating a life map that will help them navigate without blinders, conscious and aware, intentional and fully expressed. This kind of life map or plan allows its owner to blend passion and purpose with profit.

blinders