What Kind of Door are You?

Last week I was on a coaching call with the Wealthy Thought Leader mastermind group led by Andrea J. Lee.  If you don’t know Andrea (If you’re a coach, have you been living under a rock??), she is the consummate coach, and always seems to have a question or exercise that makes me go “hmmm…” If you’ve worked with me, you have benefited from Andrea’s work as I often pass gems like this one along.

This exercise is about having a clear picture of what the door to your business looks like. If your business is a big beautiful building, what is the door like? The woman Andrea was coaching in our session is a silver-haired wise woman, with an earthy vibe, a potter and lover of nature. We all chimed in with what this wise-woman-business-coach’s door would look like, and by the time we were finished we had a beautiful sense of who Kaya is, as well as what attracts people to her business.

This exercise hit me at just the right time. I’m revising my web site and struggling once again with brand angst. I don’t want to waste time on navel-gazing and certainly don’t want to lose what is working with my brand – but how can I refine it, better define it, and embrace it?
For me, as a part of this exercise, it meant looking at doors. I’ve been collecting photos of beautiful, interesting doors on Pinterest a long time – you can take a look at my board here: “Behind this door, down this path“.

After finding doors that I love and felt were “me”, I talked to a few trusted friends, clients, and my favorite source of wisdom: my mom. I asked them which doors represented my business to them and why. The responses touched my heart. I learned that I do have a brand that my clients recognize, and now I have words and phrases and images to share it with others.

stained glass doors tree

Welcoming, safe, nurturing, a catalyst for growth, an artist.

How would you or your trusted confidants describe the entry to your life and your business? Not sure… go look at a few doors.
Here are a few of mine…  What kind of door are you?

blue grillwork door

There is light streaming from your door inviting those wandering in darkness to come in and find clarity and direction.

yellow arches

Layered, deep wisdom, spiritual

paned window door

Always looking upward, outward and forward.

yellow door

Both traditional and progressive; elegant and fun

Angkor Wat

Timeless wisdom, journey to the center, soul surgery to abolish lies and reveal hidden truths

Sturdy, yet vulnerable; old (experienced) but not weathered or tired; firm foundation

Sturdy, yet vulnerable; old (experienced) but not weathered or tired; firm foundation

teal door

A gem in a uniquely crafted yet highly secure setting.

Seasons Change

How do you know you’re getting ready for change?  You start to feel an increased sense of dissatisfaction with your performance, with your environment, and with your interactions with others.  You are looking for something, but aren’t sure just what it is. You feel irritable, but can’t place your finger on why. It’s change. And it’s a good thing – really!

rose bush strugglingIn nature, seasons change with buds blooming, withering, dying and blooming all over again and again. In life, seasons change in the same way.  There are times of growth and vibrance, times that wane into quiet yearning, and times that burst into abundance. This is the process of health change. But we sabotage this process with fear, apathy, isolation, and other negative, self-limiting beliefs.  Trying to avoid this transitory process of change by living in the shadows and ignoring the tug at your heart is the
surest way to kill your joy and stall your growth.

A small rose bush grows at the edge of the yard, budding in spite of neglect.  It was planted in a shady spot instead of a place where the warmth of the sun can feed it nutrients. It wasn’t pruned so dying limbs and rangy branches suck the life that could be feeding the buds waiting to bloom. The dozen tiny rosebuds and tender leaves will probably be chewed up by insects if it is not treated for aphids and beetles.  It is a pretty little bush – but what could it be if it were tended correctly?
rose bush healthy
You are a beautiful gift to the world. Have you cultivated and tended your strengths and talents?  Don’t be satisfied with tiny successes or afraid of change as it cycles by.  Recognize the seasons as they pass and tend to your life and business accordingly.  You will enjoy an abundance of good things if you do!

May 2013
Dear Ones,
I love the month of May! The weather is finally beginning to feel warm again and flowers are blooming all over. We took a little initiative last weekend and threw open the windows and doors to do some spring cleaning.  Initiative is that belief that you can take action and accomplish your goals.There’s an e-book that I hope you will read, enjoy, and apply. It’s all about Putting POWER behind Initiative.  Let me know if you’d like a copy by sending me a note at lisa@VanAllenCoaching.com  Give the tips a try and then let me know if they helped you create initiative by posting a comment on my Facebook page at http://www.Facebook.com/TheBizDoctor

Another reason I love May – It’s my birthday month!!  This year I’m hitting another one of those milestone years and wanted to do something special for YOU.  Read on to find out about the gift I’m sharing and all the special offers!

Blessings!

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Dr. Lisa’s Birthday Bash!!

It’s my birthday this week and I want to give YOU a gift!  Below you will find a link where you can get F.R.E.E. access to a special e-book entitledPutting POWER behind Initiative, an excerpt from Your Belief Quotient.  I hope you enjoy this gift!I’ve also created special pricing based on my birthdate for some of my best products and services.  This offer isn’t going to last much longer than the cake and ice cream… so grab yours NOW!

 

Offer 1: 

The Better Beliefs – Better Business Coaching Clinic

Does your business or career need a shot in the arm? Or better yet, a full diagnostic on what is working, what could work better, and where you want to
focus your time and effort to generate more cash and fewer hassles? Apply to join the Better Beliefs – Better Business Coaching Clinic.  This three month Coaching Clinic provides you with all the best tools in life and business coaching:

stethoscope· Two individual sessions with Dr. Lisa per month

· Monthly group coaching and masterminding sessions

· Private access to materials, videos and audio recordings

· Ongoing support in the Better Beliefs Community group on Facebook

· A signed copy of Your Belief Quotient and the Belief Quotient Workbook

$1800 to-$2100 – Birthday price: $1559.00

http://www.mcssl.com/store/drlisavanallen

Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 2:

Urgent Care for Your Life & Business Mastermind Group

This group is specifically designed for clients who have been through coaching with Dr. Lisa who want to reconnect and revitalize their life and business.  Urgent Care is a six month mastermind group for entrepreneurs and executives who are committed to practicing the skills they learn, creating a community that thrives on testing and proof, and is willing to share and receive support and accountability.

team-building·         Monthly group coaching and masterminding sessions

·         Private access to materials, videos and audio recordings

·         Ongoing support in the Better Beliefs Community group on Facebook

·         A signed copy of Your Belief Quotient and the Belief Quotient Workbook

$899 – Birthday price: $599.00

 

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Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 3:

“Clear!!”  Teleseminar Teaching Series

Clear defibheartThat’s what you hear in the ER when a heart is being jolted back into proper rhythm.  That’s also the name of Dr. Lisa’s new study group.  If your heart or soul are blocked with negative emotions, if the life-blood of your work or business is stuck because you can’t seem to get past self-sabotage, if you want freedom and clarity in your life – then “Clear!!” is for you!

“Clear!!” is an 8-week program of group Clinic calls and online support.

$299.00 – Birthday price: $159.00

 

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Questions about this offer?  Call me at 319-551-1414

 

Offer 4:

Presale:  Combo pack of Your Belief Quotient & The Belief Quotient Workbook

bellieve in my bookScheduled for release in June 2013, order your presale copy of the companion workbook to Dr. Lisa’s award-winning book Your Belief Quotient . The workbook is a digital download of all the exercises in the book and additional new material designed to help you end self-sabotage and Build Better Beliefs.

Presale and Birthday price: $25.59

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Offer 5:

Your Belief Quotient: 7 Beliefs that Sabotage or Support Your Success (paperback)

A signed copy of my book and entry into the Better Beliefs Community on Facebook

$17.99 – Birthday price: $15.59

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birthday present FB likes

Five Belief Barriers to Team Success

ImageYour team has had their cheese moved and discovered a sixth dysfunction while having a crucial conversation.  You’ve tried to drive their purpose, test their passions and find their strengths.  Profits are down, tensions are up and you are wondering what ever made you think you could pull this group together.  And there lies the problem.  Do you actually believe it is possible to connect with the members of this group and work together toward positive outcomes?  Does each member of the team have a similar belief?  Teams are made up of individuals, and those individuals each have belief systems that either support or sabotage their ability to create meaningful connections.  When teams are stressed, limiting beliefs can derail any forward momentum.  Knowing and believing that you can create strong, healthy relationships is the first step toward building a team.

Henry Ford said it well, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”  Your personal beliefs are the filters that influence every thought, action, decision and relationship you have.  Your belief system began being formed in early childhood, and every relationship you’ve ever had has contributed to your belief about the next one.  So what do you believe about your ability to connect, build, maintain and deepen relationships?

There are five belief barriers to creating healthy connections. Identifying these barriers is the first step in creating healthy beliefs about your connections to others.

1.  Defensiveness stems from unresolved conflicts and unhealed wounds from past connections with others.  A false sense of self-preservation drives us to put up walls to prevent new hurts before they happen.  There is an injustice to this defensive posture as we hold ourselves from new connections because of what someone else did to us. The problem with this is that we are assuming this new connection will be just as harmful as the ones that hurt.  We fail to realize this new connection could bring healing and joy to our lives.  To eliminate defensiveness, we must develop the belief that we are resilient.  The word resilient stems from the Latin word that means literally “to leap back”. The resilient overcome obstacles.  “The Fraud Factor” shows up when someone believes they must cover up real or imagined faults.  This lack of authenticity can grow into a lack of integrity.  When a member of a partnership or team puts on a front, the others usually sense it on an unconscious level.  Transparency about your personal strengths and weaknesses is the best way to build trust, an essential component building relationships.

2.  Dependence stems from a false belief that you are not able to accomplish your objectives on your own.  An unhealthy dependence on others grows out of fear that without the strength or support of others, you are not enough.  This faulty belief usually has its root in early childhood where you were not given opportunities to overcome obstacles and excel.  Confidence is built slowly, one success upon another and confidence is the antidote to dependence.

3.  Comparisons can be an equally destructive barrier to connection.  It is human nature to do some comparing as you begin new relationships.  When two people first meet, they compare differences, noting how each is unique.  The danger comes when one of the parties in the relationship fail to meet some unwritten standard or criteria.  Uniqueness can be an attraction factor or something that makes you feel awkward and disconnected.  Diversity can be divisive or add variety and spice. Thinking “you’re not like me” or “I’m not like them” can be the beginning of a belief that either weakens or builds a connection. There are two potential routes your thinking can take:

“I’m not like them, so I don’t belong and never will.” or “I’m not like them, I can contribute my unique strengths and perspectives.”

4.  Distractions take our focus off the priorities important to the relationship.  Every relationship, partnership and team has values, goals, agendas and ideas whether they have been clearly communicated or not.  When one member is distracted by conflicting activities, the relationship suffers.  Believing in the vision of the team requires vigilant focus as well as the willingness to sacrifice personal agendas.

5.  Finally, personal preferences can be a belief barrier to creating healthy connections.  Certain personality types need more time and space than others.  They prefer to recharge their batteries with time alone.  They might need time to consider ideas and their responses.  They could have a greater need for quiet.  Believing that the relationship robs you of what you need to function will create tension and limit your ability to contribute generously.  Individuals need to be responsible for nurturing themselves and making sure they come to their relationships as healthy and whole as possible.  Communicating personal needs and taking time for yourself will help others support you in being your best.  Then you can come to the group refreshed and ready to take on any challenge.

Brian Tracy’s 1000% Formula

I recently watched a video by Brian Tracy called Increase Your Income 1000%. He says his formula is based on the Japanese Kaizen Formula or the Law of Incremental Improvement which is based on getting better, a little every day. This principle builds on the Momentum principle which says that once you start moving forward, it becomes easier to move forward.

Tracy shared how he created this formula after reflecting on his own success and comparing it with the success he’s seen in his clients. Here’s the 1000% formula:

• Get up 2 hours early

• Invest 1st hour (golden hour) reading something motivational/uplifting

• Make a list – plan you day

• Prioritize your list

• Start at the beginning and work your way through

• Listen to audio programs in your car – equivalent of getting a degree in your field

• After every call (he teaches sales) ask two questions: what did I do right? and what would I do differently next time?

• Treat everyone you meet like a Million Dollar Customer

What part of Tracy’s formula are you already following?  Are these activities supporting your success?  Would it be worth implementing the rest of the formula?  Could it hurt?

Watch the video for yourself: http://motivatetube.com/video/6Pz03hNEVTE/Increasing-Your-Income-1000-Formula.html

Blessings!

Dr. Lisa

Open Your Heart For On-Going Success

In my research on limiting and propelling beliefs, I found an interesting fact.  There is a fairly high percentage of people who are experiencing a degree of success, but one limiting belief holds them back.  It is as if their taste of success has created for them a roadblock to continued success.  What is this limiting belief?  It is that they believe they know the answers and don’t need any new input into their lives.  They have formed opinions and have closed to ideas that don’t immediately match those opinions.  They believe they are right and anyone who doesn’t agree is wrong.

The most successful people maintain an openness to new ideas, new ways of doing things, and new learning.  They approach different ideas with humility and a willingness to listen before rejecting or coming to judgment.

This ability to remain open comes more easily to certain temperaments.  Individuals who prefer the concrete over the abstract tend to struggle with openness, but they can learn to develop the skill of consideration before rejection of new ideas or methods.  When faced with some new thought or practice, ask yourself how it compares to your experience.  Ask yourself if opening to this idea could hurt you in any way.  If it safe to proceed, move forward and gather more information, comparing the new experience with what you know is true.  Opening your heart will help you discover new paths to success.

Entrepreneurs – The New Normal

I love reading stories of entrepreneurs – they inspire me and make me believe  my dreams and aspirations are more within reach because of their achievements.  I’ve often felt out of synch with the rest of the world – I’d rather slave away creating my own business than work for anyone else.  Even when the hours are long and the pay lower than I could get elsewhere –  the pride of ownership of what I’ve accomplished far outweighs any hardship!

I guess I’m not that unusual.  Entrepreneurs are becoming the new normal!  More and more people are seeing how they can invent a life of purpose and passion – and profit!  I just finished a couple books I highly recommend on this subject:

 

  • Life Entrepreneurs: Ordinary people Creating Extraordinary Lives by Christopher Gergen and Gregg Vanourek

 

  • To Build the Life You Want, Create the Work You Love by Marsha Sinetar

 

I just celebrated the anniversary of my business and am proud of weathering storms, excited to see new growth, and thrilled at the success I see coming my way!

How can I help YOU create the life and business you want?  Contact me at lisa@VanAllenCoaching.com