Build Better Beliefs with Affirmations

Affirmations have been mocked and misunderstood by many through the years.  My own husband enjoys creating what he calls    “Slam-firmations” and teases me with them.  Interestingly enough, he has his own positive affirmation posted in his bathroom and on his computer monitor!  I challenge you to avoid overlooking the power of a positive affirmation to shift your thoughts and beliefs.  Here is how you can create powerful, belief-shifting affirmations:

1. Start your affirmation with the words “I am”.   “I AM” is a name for God, and you are claiming Divine power and intervention when you start your affirmation this way.  You can also start affirmations with words like “I know”, “I have”, “I love”.

2. Write your affirmation in the positive.  If you focus on a statement like “I am not angry with my abuser anymore”, your focus is on the negative (in this case the abuser).  Instead write a statement like “I have forgiven those who have harmed me and I am free from the wounds of the past.”

3. Write your affirmation in present tense.  Even if you are not yet experiencing your affirmation, write and visualize it as if it were happening in this moment.  This will shift your unconscious mind into making the statement true.

4. Use your own words and language that is comfortable for you.  You want to use words that feel right on the tongue when you say them out loud.

5. Write your affirmations with passion and feeling.  Your “I am” statements should be charged with warmth and make you feel energized, happy, and peaceful.  Your affirmations will carry more power if your mind and emotions are engaged.

6. Engage your senses as you write and repeat your affirmations.  Use rich, colorful language that creates pictures of the life you want.  Write your affirmations on special paper with appealing fonts or script.  Listen to music as you read and repeat your affirmations.  If you enjoy incense, potpourris, or other room scents, use them.

7. Focus on the “what”, not the “how”.  Let your mind examine what you want to be true, but do not let it question how it will happen.  Your mind will limit the endlessly perfect possibility of how your future will unfold.

8. Incorporate your current successes and positive traits.  As you focus on the life you want to create, recognize what you already love about yourself and your life.  For example, “I am building my life upon truth because I have faced my fears and am strong and resilient.

9. Write affirmations about your deepest desires.  Ask yourself:

• What thinking patterns or beliefs would I like to change?

• What circumstances would I like to improve or transform?

• What experiences would I like to have?

• What feelings would I like to enjoy?

• What do I want my life to be like?

 

You can write as many or as few affirmations as you like.  You might make a list of several and rotate through them over the course of a week or month.  Take time to read through each of your affirmations, letting the words and ideas sink in before moving on to the next.   Affirmations can help you rebuild and strengthen you resilience, building better beliefs that support your success.

Open Your Heart For On-Going Success

In my research on limiting and propelling beliefs, I found an interesting fact.  There is a fairly high percentage of people who are experiencing a degree of success, but one limiting belief holds them back.  It is as if their taste of success has created for them a roadblock to continued success.  What is this limiting belief?  It is that they believe they know the answers and don’t need any new input into their lives.  They have formed opinions and have closed to ideas that don’t immediately match those opinions.  They believe they are right and anyone who doesn’t agree is wrong.

The most successful people maintain an openness to new ideas, new ways of doing things, and new learning.  They approach different ideas with humility and a willingness to listen before rejecting or coming to judgment.

This ability to remain open comes more easily to certain temperaments.  Individuals who prefer the concrete over the abstract tend to struggle with openness, but they can learn to develop the skill of consideration before rejection of new ideas or methods.  When faced with some new thought or practice, ask yourself how it compares to your experience.  Ask yourself if opening to this idea could hurt you in any way.  If it safe to proceed, move forward and gather more information, comparing the new experience with what you know is true.  Opening your heart will help you discover new paths to success.

Resilience – The Key to Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

re·sil·ience //  (r-zlyns)

n. 1. The ability to recover quickly from illness, change, or misfortune; buoyancy.

2. The property of a material that enables it to resume its original shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed; elasticity.

// (The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language)

When you look back at your childhood, do you experience happy memories or sadness?  Do you focus more on the wounds of the past or the joys of experiences you had?  The answers to these questions are very important to determining just how resilient you are.  How strong are your beliefs that you can and will overcome obstacles and succeed?  Research indicates that individuals with open wounds from the past tend to have more difficulty believing they can accomplish their goals.  It is as if they are chained to the past, held back by powerful emotional cords.  These cords consist of lies attached to the events of the past.  Your own past and the stories you inherited from your family.  These lies are misperceptions and misunderstandings and outright falsehoods about what really happened, your personal value, your ability to succeed, what others think, and what you believe about yourself.

Resilience, as defined by the American Heritage Dictionary, is the ability to recover and even return to the original shape.  You can overcome the wounds of the past and “bounce back”.  And rather than returning to your original state, I believe you will become stronger, clearer and possess a message that will likely become part of your purpose and passion.  It will take some work.  It will mean going back and remembering the painful events of the past, but this time armed with tools that clean and cauterize the wound so you can heal.  Once you have completed the work of healing the past, you will be ready and able to move forward into the future.  You will experience freedom from shame and grief and find a lightness that enables you to soar over obstacles in your path.  Limiting beliefs about who you are and what you can do will no longer hold you.

Why YOU need a Strategic Plan

I thoroughly believe in strategic planning – whether it’s for your life or your business or both!  Here’s why:

1 – Strategic planning helps you look back, look inside, and look forward.  Taking a look at your accomplishments and failures, your assets and debits, your dreams and realities is healthy and necessary for growth.

2 – Strategic planning forces you to define who you are and what you do in concise terms.  This is essential for marketing and networking.  More importantly, it helps you determine if you are really who you want to be.

3 – Strategic planning asks you to answer the big “WHY?”  Defining your purpose and passionately pursuing it will carry you through tough times.  Knowing “why” you do what you do forces your gaze outward to how you give back and who you serve.

4 – Strategic planning helps you set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-specific goals.  A dynamic strategic plan is always in front of you urging you on toward those goals.

5 – Strategic planning allows you to narrow your focus on the action items that will make you successful.  Keeping your eyes on the goal and the specific action steps needed to accomplish those goals will keep you from wasting time, money or other precious resources.

6 – Strategic planning will outline the ways you plan to measure your progress.  Nothing encourages more than steady, measurable progress.

7 – Strategic planning can be personalized so that it is YOUR plan, highlighting YOUR strengths, embracing YOUR passion and purpose.

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Rising from the clay

Og Mandino writes, “Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.  The height of my goals will not hold me in awe though I may stumble often before they are reached.  If I stumble I will rise and my falls will not concern me for all men must stumble often to reach the hearth.  Only a worm is free from the worry of stumbling.  I am not a worm.  I am a man.  Let others build a cave with their clay.  I will build a castle with mine.”

“Let others build a cave with their clay.  I will build a castle with mine.”  I love these two sentences!  It truly envisions a life beyond failure or discouragement. 

I was listening to a recording by David T. Blanchard on Og Mandino’s writings this morning and I was struck with the image of so many people mired in the muck of their failures and shortcomings.  Business owners and entrepreneurs are not immune.  We may keeping moving, apparently forward, but internally we go round and round with the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” messages in our minds.  This cycle of self-sabotage can be stopped.  Recognizing the negative chatter and reframing it takes effort — but the rewards are huge!  Freedom! Success!  Peace! You will finally allow yourself to enjoy your successes because you will feel your internal world and your external persona are beginning to match.  You will have silenced the voice that calls you a fraud, look in the mirror and like who you see.  You will reach out for your goals and believe they are attainable.

Does this sound reasonable — or is it a stretch for you?